gah... sooo annoyed at the moment... really need to vent and not sure where i can vent to so i thought why not here??

i went to j's parents place tonight for dinner cos its fathers day.. and i know that j had a convo with his mom in the bedroom whilst i was outside watching tv... thinking thats all normal and fine cos he's quite close to his mom.. and when we left he said to me... "i hope you dont mind.. but i told my mom she can stay with us maybe once or twice a week... ".. its because she has some new job in north sydney really close to where we live and because she's too "scared" to drive that far every day.. she's been staying there during the week instead of driving to and from work every day... and apparently she was almost in tears to him about that... gahhhhhh!!! that just really pisses me off cos first of all he didnt even ask me first or talk to me first about INVITING HIS MOM TO COME LIVE WITH US!!! even if its just for one or two day a week.. but ... argh.... i see my parents once a month!!! ... we already go and see his parents every bloody weekend... and now i have to put up with his mom staying with us??? ... i am NOT one of those little asian girls that are okay with living with parents... why the heck did i so quickly buy two properties just so i can get away from having to live with anyone?!?!

i dont deal well living with other people... my ideal parental situation is where we see them once a month like how i see my parents.. i already have to put up with having to see his parents every weekend and now possible living with us?!?! .. he says it mightn't even happen anyways.. but still... the fact he didn't even consult with me first before he invited her! ... just because i dont complain and whine about every little thing that bothers me doesn't mean my feelings dont need to be taken into consideration! ... i get that this relationship is about 2 ppl so i compromise... i dont bitch and moan about everything that i know i need to compromise about...

i CANNOT deal with parents... FINALLY his parents stopped being a burden when we moved out... that it didnt even bother me that we had to go over every weekend just to see them... and now this!!! gahhhhh!! why can't his parents look after themselves?!? ... they can't even look after themselves let alone help us out!! thats what parents are for... to support their kids!! we're not that old where my parents are like crippling old and needs to be taken care of... and even when my parents are that old... they would have made plans to make sure they can be taken care of.... i know that sounds really selfish but i guess it was the way i was brought up.. my parents have always pushed me to be really independent , they have always come in to help when it was needed and the remainder of the time they left me to my own devices.... his parents on the other hand.... cannot help us when we need help.. and then proceeds to drag us down!! ... gah...

his mom is soooo clingy... he's not even an old child.. not even the only son!! ... she still has her other son and her husband at home with her...... i am an only child and my parents are separated.. and even when my parents first split up and my mom was feeling super lonely because she was living in a big house all by herself she wasn't nearly as clingy as his mom!! i just seriously can't stand it... WHY HAVE CHILDREN WHEN YOU CAN'T FRICKING LOOKING AFTER AND SUPPORT THEM?!?!

IF this happens.. this is almost a deal breaker for me... i CANNOT just CANNOT put up with having to live with parents... and whilst i dont expect him to have to choose between his mom and me.. i have no idea how it would work... we have a bloody mortgage together that neither of us can afford on our own.... i HIGHLY doubt that we can just become roommates!! ARGH!!! hate this soo much!